Wedding Passbook ..My God Thats the Way!!!

Monica married Nick this day. At the end of the wedding party, Monica's mother gave her a newly opened bank saving passbook with Rs.1000 deposit amount.

Mother: 'Monica, take this passbook. Keep it as a record of your marriage life. When there's something happy and memorable happened in your new life, put some money in. Write down what it's about next to the line. The more memorable the event is, the more money you can put in. I've done the first one for you today. Do the others with Nick.
When you look back after years, you can know how much happiness you've had.'
Monica shared this with Nick when getting home. They both thought it was a great idea and were anxious to know when the second deposit can be made. This was what they did after certain time:

* 7 Feb: Rs.100, first birthday celebration for Nick after marriage
* 1 Mar: Rs.300, salary raise for Monica
* 20 Mar: Rs.200, vacation trip to Bali
* 15 Apr: Rs.2000, Monica got pregnant
* 1 Jun: Rs.1000, Nick got promoted
* ..... And so on...

However, after years, they started fighting and arguing for trivial things. They didn't talk much. They regretted that they had married the nastiest people in the world.... No more love...Kind of typical nowadays, huh?

One day Monica talked to her Mother: 'Mom, we can't stand it anymore. We agree to divorce. I can't imagine how I decided to marry this guy!!!"

Mother: 'Sure, girl, that's no big deal. Just do whatever you want if you really can't stand it. But before that, do one thing first.

Remember the saving passbook I gave you on your wedding day? Take out all money and spend it first. You shouldn't keep any record of such a poor marriage.'

Monica thought it was true. So she went to the bank, waiting at the queue and planning to cancel the account. While she was waiting, she took a look at the passbook record. She looked, and looked, and looked. Then the memory of all the previous joy and happiness just came up her mind. Her eyes were then filled with tears. She left and went home.

When she was home, she handed the passbook to Nick, asked him to spend the money before getting divorce.

The next day, Nick gave the passbook back to Monica. She found a new deposit of Rs.5000. And a line next to the record: 'This is the day I notice how much I've loved you thru out all these years. How much happiness you've brought me.'

They hugged and cried, putting the passbook back to the safe. Do you know how much money they had saved when they retired? I did not ask. I believe the money did not matter any more after they had gone thru all the good years in their life.

"When you fall in any way, don't see the place where you fell instead see the place from where you slipped. Life is about correcting mistakes"

Each Day Is A Gift ... This is Awesome!!!

The 92-year-old, petite, well-poised and proud lady, who is fully dressed each morning by eight o'clock, with her hair fashionably coifed and makeup perfectly applied, even though she is legally blind, moved to a nursing home today. Her husband of 70 years recently passed away, making the move necessary.

After many hours of waiting patiently in the lobby of the nursing home, she smiled sweetly when told her room was ready. As she maneuvered her walker to the elevator, I provided a visual description of her tiny room, including the eyelet sheets that had been hung on her window. "I love it," she stated with the enthusiasm of an eight-year-old having just been presented with a new puppy.

"Mrs. Jones, you haven't seen the room .... just wait."

"That doesn't have anything to do with it," she replied. "Happiness is something you decide on ahead of time. Whether I like my room or not doesn't depend on how the furniture is arranged, it's how I arrange my mind. I already decided to love it. It's a decision I make every morning when I wake up. I have a choice; I can spend the day in bed recounting the difficulty I have with the parts of my body that no longer work, or get out of bed and be thankful for the ones that do. Each day is a gift, and as long as my eyes open I'll focus on the new day and all the happy memories I've stored away, just for this time in my life."

She went on to explain, "Old age is like a bank account, you withdraw from what you've put in. So, my advice to you would be to deposit a lot of happiness in the bank account of memories Thank you for your part in filling my Memory bank. I am still depositing."

And with a smile, she said, "Remember the five simple rules to be happy:
1. Free your heart from hatred.
2. Free your mind from worries.
3. Live simply.
4. Give more.
5. Expect less."

GROWING OLDER IS MANDATORY, GROWING UP IS OPTIONAL.

From the Diary of a Young Fellow...

The first day of school our professor introduced himself and challenged us to get to know someone we didn't already know. I stood up to look around when a gentle hand touched my shoulder. I turned around to find a wrinkled, little old lady beaming up at me with a smile that that lit up her entire being.

She said, "Hi, handsome. My name is Rose. I'm eighty-seven years old. Can I give you a hug?" I laughed and enthusiastically responded, "Of course you may!" and she gave me a giant squeeze.

"Why are you in college at such a young, innocent age?" I asked.

She jokingly replied, "I'm here to meet a rich husband, get married, have a couple of children, and then retire and travel."

"No seriously," I asked. I was curious what may have motivated her to be taking on this challenge at her age.

"I always dreamt of having a college education and now I'm getting one!" she told me.

After class we walked to the student union building and share a chocolate milkshake. We became instant friends. Every day for the next three months we would leave class together and talk nonstop. I was always mesmerized listening to this "time machine" as she shared her wisdom and experience with me.

Over the course of the year, Rose became a campus icon and she easily made friends wherever she went. She loved to dress up and she reveled in the attention bestowed upon her from the other students. She was living it up.

At the end of the semester we invited Rose to speak at our football banquet. I'll never forget what she taught us. She was introduced and stepped up to the podium. As she began to deliver her prepared speech, she dropped her three by five cards on the floor. Frustrated and a little embarrassed she leaned into the microphone and simply said, "I'm sorry I'm so jittery. I gave up beer for Lent and this whiskey is killing me! I'll never get my speech back in order so let me just tell you what I know."

As we laughed she cleared her throat and began: "We do not stop playing because we are old; we grow old because we stop playing. There are only few secrets to staying young, being happy, and achieving success. "You have to laugh and find humor every day. You've got to have a dream. When you lose your dreams, you die. We have so many people walking around who are dean and don't even know it!"

"There is a huge difference between growing older and growing up. If you are nineteen years old and lie in bed for one full year and don't do one productive thing, you will turn twenty years old. If I am eighty-seven years old and stay in bed for a year and never do anything I will turn eighty-eight. Anybody can grow older. That doesn't take any talent or ability. The idea is to grow up by always finding the opportunity in change."

"Have no regrets. The elderly usually don't have regrets for what we did, but rather for things we did not do. The only people who fear death are those with regrets."

She concluded her speech by courageously singing The Rose. She challenged each of us to study the lyrics and live them out in our daily lives. At the years end Rose finished the college degree she had begun all those years ago.

One week after graduation Rose died peacefully in her sleep.

Remember : GROWING OLDER IS MANDATORY, GROWING UP IS OPTIONAL.

Just Do It by Neil Eskelin/Elbert Hubbard

Author Elbert Hubbard told the story of an incident during the
Spanish-American War. It was imperative that the president get a
message to the leader of the insurgents. His name was Garcia and he
was known to fighting somewhere in the mountains of Cuba, but no mail
or telegraph could reach him. Someone said, "There's a fellow by the
name of Rowan who will find Garcia for you if anybody can."

Rowan took the letter without hesitation. He sealed it in a leather
pouch strapped over his heart. He landed in the dark of night off the
coast of Cuba and make his way to the mountains, and after much
difficulty, found Garcia. He handed him the letter, turned around and
headed home. Hubbard tells this story in "A Letter to Garcia." Rowan
didn't ask, "Exactly where is he?" or "I doubt if I can do it." There
was a job to be done and he did it.

Instead of making a dozen excuses why you can't complete the task,
think about Rowan. Deliver the goods!

its been a long time...

Yes it has been a long time since i blogged here. Was busy with a Infosec Workshop and the deadly semester exams. My God! these exams do piss me off; especially wen we have to cram the whole night and vomit the next morning....Yuk!

Was also busy sharing the life experiences of some of my friend and really good ones too. I always tell na everybody has a story to tell. But I feel contented with what I am today.

I am back to my blog and will try to update it every now and then!

LOVE...

I once had a friend who grew to be very close to me. Once when we were sitting at the edge of a swimming pool, she filled the palm of her hand with some water and held it before me, and said this:

"You see this water carefully contained on my hand?
It symbolizes Love."

This was how I saw it: As long as you keep your hand caringly open and allow it to remain there, it will always be there. However, if you attempt to close your fingers round it and try to posses it, it will spill through the first cracks it finds.

This is the greatest mistake that people do when they meet love...they try to posses it, they demand, they expect... and just like the water spilling out of your hand, love will retrieve from you.

For love is meant to be free, you cannot change its nature. If there are people you love, allow them to be free beings.

Give and don't expect.
Advise, but don't order.
Ask, but never demand.

It might sound simple, but it is a lesson that may take a lifetime to truly practice. It is the secret to true love. To truly practice it, you must sincerely feel no expectations from those who you love, and yet an unconditional caring.

We all Dream. What's so interesting ???

Its the possibility of a dream come true that makes life interesting.
- Paulo Coelho

Yes we all dream. some with closed eyes and some with open. Few are those whose dreams don't let them sleep. Each moment of life is associated with a dream. The dreams are broken,people ae shaken and what hey get out of it they call experience.
As an Info Security Professional my job was to mitigate Risks. Fortunately I applied the learnt principles for machines and processes and not for life. And today I am a proud man who says
"Be brave. Take risks. Nothing can substitute experience."

Go GET IT... Don't Quit!!!

When things go wrong, as they sometimes will,
When the road you're trudging seems all uphill,
When the funds are low and the debts are high,
And you want to smile, but you have to sigh,

When care is pressing you down a bit
Rest if you must, but don't you quit.
Life is queer with its twists and its turns,
As everyone of us sometimes learns,

And many a failure turns about
When they might have won, had they stuck it out.
Don't give up though the pace seems slow,
You may succeed with another blow.

Often the goal is nearer than,
It seems to a faint and faltering man,
Often the struggler has given up
When he might have captured the victor's cup;

And he learned too late when the night came down,
How close he was to the golden crown.
Success is failure turned inside out
The silver tint of the clouds of doubt

And you never can tell how close you are,
It may be near when it seems so far;
So stick to the fight when you're hardest hit,
It's when things seem worst that you must not quit!

We have brains!!!!!

It was a sports stadium.Eight Children were standing on the track to participate in a running event.* Ready! * Steady! * Bang !!!With the sound of Toy pistol,All eight girls started running. Hardly had they covered ten to fifteen steps, when one of the smaller girls slipped and fell down, Due to bruises and pain she started crying.When the other seven girls heard the little girl cry they stopped running, stood for a while and turned back.Seeing the girl on the track they all ran to help. One among them bent down, picked her up and kissed her gently And enquired as to how she was. They then lifted the fallen girl pacifying her.Two of them held her firmly while all seven joined hands together and walked together towards the winning post...There was pin drop silence at the spectator's stand.Officials were shocked.Slow claps multiplied to thousands as the spectators stood up in appreciation. Many eyes were filled with tearsYES. This happened in Hyderabad [INDIA], recently!The sport was conducted by National Institute of Mental Health.All these special girls had come to participate in this event They were spastic children.Yes, they were Mentally Challenged.What did they teach the WORLD?Teamwork?Humanity?Equality among all??We can't do this ever because we have brains!



Just Think Over This!!!

My Favourite Quotes from Ayn Rand

• "In the name of the best within you, do not sacrifice this world to those who are its worst. In the name of the values that keep you alive, do not let your vision of man be distorted by the ugly, the cowardly, the mindless in those who have never achieved his title. Do not lose your knowledge that man's proper estate is an upright posture, an intransigent mind and a step that travels unlimited roads. Do not let your fire go out, spark by irreplaceable spark, in the hopeless swamps of the approximate, the not-quite, the not-yet, the not-at-all. Do not let the hero in your soul perish, in lonely frustration for the life you deserved, but have never been able to reach. Check your road and the nature of your battle. The world you desired can be won, it exists, it is real, it is possible, it's yours."
• A creative man is motivated by the desire to achieve, not by the desire to beat others.
• I like cigarettes, Miss Taggart. I like to think of fire held in a man's hand. Fire, a dangerous force, tamed at his fingertips. I often wonder about the hours when a man sits alone, watching the smoke of a cigarette, thinking. I wonder what great things have come from such hours. When a man thinks, there is a spot of fire alive in his mind - and it is proper that he should have the burning point of a cigarette as his one expression.
• A genius is a genius, regardless of the number of morons who belong to the same race—and a moron is a moron, regardless of the number of geniuses who share his racial origin.
• If this boat were sinking, I'd give my life to save you. Not because it's any kind of duty. Only because I like you, for reasons and standards of my own. I could die for you. But I couldn't and wouldn't live for you.
• Do you believe in God, Andrei? No. Neither do I. But that's a favorite question of mine. An upside-down question, you know. What do you mean? Well, if I asked people whether they believed in life, they'd never understand what I meant. It's a bad question. It can mean so much that it really means nothing. So I ask them if they believe in God. And if they say they do -- then, I know they don't believe in life. Why? Because, you see, God -- whatever anyone chooses to call God -- is one's highest conception of the highest possible. And whoever places his highest conception above his own possibility thinks very little of himself and his life. It's a rare gift, you know, to feel reverence for your own life and to want the best, the greatest, the highest possible, here, now, for your very own.

Please Question!!!

Yes the key to creativity. If one has to discover new horizons and do something that will change the way we look at a problem or taboo. As Albert Einstein said "The important thing is not to stop questioning. Curiosity has its own reason for existing." Curiosity is something that is even root to thought. Its our curiosity that triggers the brain to search for things and that leads the way for various thoughts coming to our minds. So lets have a childs curiosity and a mature thinking to go with it. BuT I think our maturity is hindering the curiosity to comeup. If you are shy to question others, then question yourself and be rest assured the answer be found. Anyway if you had to choose between curiosity and maturity: GO WITH THE FORMER>

GOD ALWAYS GIVES, NEVER TAKES AWAY..

Hi, A beautiful story just for u.............read on....
Jenny was a bright-eyed, pretty five-year-old girl.

One day when she and her mother were checking out at the grocery store, Jenny saw a plastic pearl necklace priced at $2.50. How she wanted that necklace and when she asked her mother if she would buy it for her, her mother said, "Well, it is a pretty necklace, but it costs an awful lot of money. I'll tell you what. I'll buy you the necklace, and when we get home we can make up a list of chores that you can do to pay for the necklace. And don't forget that for your birthday Grandma just might give you a whole dollar bill, too. Okay?"
How Jenny loved those pearls. She wore them everywhere to kindergarten, bed, and when she went out with her mother to run errands. The only time she didn't wear them was in the shower - her mother had told her that they would turn her neck green. Now Jenny had a very loving daddy. When Jenny went to bed, he would get up from his favorite chair every night and read Jenny her favorite story. One night when he finished the story, he said, "Jenny, do you love me?""Oh yes, Daddy, you know I love you," the little girl said."Well, then, give me your pearls.""Oh! Daddy, not my pearls!" Jenny said. "But you can have Rosie, my favorite doll. Remember her? You gave her to me last year for my birthday. And you can have her tea party outfit, too. Okay?""Oh no, darling, that's okay." Her father brushed her cheek with a kiss. "Good night, little one."
A week later, her father once again asked Jenny after her story, "Do you love me?""Oh yes, Daddy, you know I love you.""Well, then, give me your pearls.""Oh, Daddy, not my pearls! But you can have Ribbons, my toy horse. Do you remember her? She's my favorite. Her hair is so soft, and you can play with it and braid it and everything. You can have Ribbons if you want her, Daddy," the little girl said to her father."No, that's okay," her father said and brushed her cheek again with a kiss. "God bless you, little one. Sweet dreams."Several days later, when Jenny's father came in to read her a story, Jenny was sitting on her bed and her lip was trembling. "Here, Daddy," she said, and held out her hand. She opened it and her beloved pearl necklace was inside. She let it slip into her father's hand. With one hand her father held the plastic pearls and with the other he pulled out of his pocket a blue velvet box.Inside of the box were real, genuine, beautiful pearls.He had them all along. He was waiting for Jenny to give up the cheap stuff so he could give her the real thing. So it is with our Heavenly Father. He is waiting for us to give up the cheap things....
In our lives so that he can give us beautiful treasure. Isn't God good?Are you holding onto things which God wants you to let go of?Are you holding onto harmful or unnecessary partners, relationships, habits and activities which you have become so attached to that it seems impossible to let go?Sometimes it is so hard to see what is in the other hand but do believe this one thing.................God will never take away something without giving you something better in its place.


Jenny agreed, and her mother bought the pearl necklace for her. Jenny worked on her chores very hard every day, and sure enough, her Grandma gave her a brand new dollar bill for her birthday. Soon Jenny had paid off the pearls.

For all sad words of...

" For all sad words of tongue or pen the saddest are these : It might have been."
Yeah! these are Sir Lord Alfred Tennyson's lines and damn true as well. I find this quote interesting when i get puzzled about my aim in life. This thought helps me a lot. We might never eventually or ultimately figure out why we were born and what is the sole aim in our lives but if we just remember to listen to our hearts and do what is right rather than what other people think is right, we will not be having any regets. And believe me regret is the worst kind of feeling you can ever have.
So just listen to your heart and rock on...

PROBLEMS! PROBLEMS! PROBLEMS!

This post is dedicated to one of my colleagues. I will not disclose the name but tell you about some of his characteristics. He is young, energetic,full knowledge and always lends a helping hand. He has one of he most ideal personalities. Still he says " Sir I feel frustrated what to do."
I am trying to solve his problem via this post. Life is full of opportunities and always gives a fair chance to everybody. In the end we do not get what we want rather what we deserve. If our actions are oriented towards good the results will always be good. All the good characteristics i talked about, are present in every individual. Its a THOUGHT. I believe thoughts are like parasites. They need some action to feed upon. Once we feed it with an action then it begins to behave accordingly.
Let me explain this to you in more technical terms. Our brain has two Engineers(Thanks to so many engineering colleges throughout the country!!!). Mr. Positive and Mr. Negative. They like all engineers believe in working only when the deadlines are hanging on our heads like swords(I hope you remember the one night fights before your end sem exams!!).
Here is their functioning. You get some project or decide to prepare for an exam. You think for a second that you cannot do it and Mr. Negative will be at work. He will tell you several reasons why you cannot do it and other odds against you and you will be defeated n your mind, not to mention in real life as well.
Now take another scenario, you think you can do it and Mr. Positive will come to work and tell you the benefits you would get by doing this, your past achievements and situations where you succeeded with a lot of struggle and other charms.
Both the Engineers are very efficient and they are fair as well.

Leave fear for it ruins you from the power of right thinking. Have the attitude that If it has got to be then it has to be me and you can achieve anything. You have infinite potential just learn to tap it. As one of my colleagues says The gift of life is life itself. So enjoy every moment. There is a wonderful life awaiting ahead of you. Opportunity knocks twice ,thrice, many times. Don't complain of noise just open the door.

Just learn to compare yourself against yourself.